Have you ever felt you wanted to know more about it? Or didn’t want to know more at all (that’s where I was until my mid-twenties), like you’d rather be invisible? However you answered, there’s a good reason for it. How would you describe yourself? Half? Whole? For racial minorities, what do you think or feel when you see someone who looks like you walking down the street? Through the hallway at school? Sitting next to you on the bus? In a restaurant?ĭo you feel different, even though you look the same? To be honest, I think this stuff gets a little foggy, but it gives us language to attach to the stuff we experience in our day to day lives.Īnyway. We pair thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions with that and bam there you have your sense of ethnic identity. Here are 3 basic concepts to help us figure it out:ġ) Ethnic identity is the degree to which we feel a sense of belonging to a particular ethnic/racial group. Okay so, how does this relate to identity development? And what is identity development? What is your identity development?Īdoptees, this is for you!! Parents, you’re welcome to join in too 🙂 Main character is Lara Jean, the teenager, half Korean and half white. It’s referenced in one of the opening scenes that her mother died and now it’s just her father and two sisters ( I wanna talk about ambiguous loss at some point, stay tuned, it’ll be great!). Originally a book by Jenny Han, adopted into the movie. BUT, we’ll stick to something short and sweet (ish)! I’m real excited about it actually and I could write about it for hours. “A teenage girl’s secret love letters are exposed and wreak havoc on her love life.” why am I here in this family, umm what’s going on here? Do I belong here?” It’s the adoptee thinking things to herself like, “Umm. And today we’re gonna talk about that feeling the waitress had, that sense of curiosity and perhaps confusion.

The waitress asked my parents, “Um, do you mind me asking, why are you guys sitting together, what’s going on here?” A few years ago I met my parents out for lunch, introducing them to my wife’s parents for the first time (fiancé back then).

My secret identity intro